dead on arrival

[Crazy_amy_805]

Wow, I saw him often. I had a class with him. I see everyone crying and people talking about some boy who died. and I wanted to know who.... when i found out his name i couldnt picture his face, some one had to show me a picture.... some one had to fucking show me who this kid in my own class , who ive had for previous classes, is .... i felt awful.... not only that he was my friend's best friend.... he was found dead... rumor was he was shot or Hit by a car..... but he has heart problems and that was his cause of death.....


I didn't know him well, but hes the 3rd death at my school. Its just an unsettling feeling how things happen so fast, and how one guy can have such an impact, i mean most of my administrators couldn't help but cry each time they mentioned it. It got me thinking ...... and i still am.....




.... just you get lost in these thoughts of death and trying to find a reason when you really cant......

[RuthlessNate]

Originally Posted by Crazy_amy_805

Wow, I saw him often. I had a class with him. I see everyone crying and people talking about some boy who died. and I wanted to know who.... when i found out his name i couldnt picture his face, some one had to show me a picture.... some one had to fucking show me who this kid in my own class , who ive had for previous classes, is .... i felt awful.... not only that he was my friend's best friend.... he was found dead... rumor was he was shot or Hit by a car..... but he has heart problems and that was his cause of death.....


I didn't know him well, but hes the 3rd death at my school. Its just an unsettling feeling how things happen so fast, and how one guy can have such an impact, i mean most of my administrators couldn't help but cry each time they mentioned it. It got me thinking ...... and i still am.....




.... just you get lost in these thoughts of death and trying to find a reason when you really cant......

It's never something you can really get used to, people you know dying. I lost a few friends when I was in high school. The hardest I had to deal with wasn't a classmate, though, it was my cousin. She shot herself - I think not really knowing why was the reason it was so hard to deal with.
You'll get through it though. Don't worry. Those thoughts are natural.

[Crazy_amy_805]

Originally Posted by RuthlessNate

It's never something you can really get used to, people you know dying. I lost a few friends when I was in high school. The hardest I had to deal with wasn't a classmate, though, it was my cousin. She shot herself - I think not really knowing why was the reason it was so hard to deal with.
You'll get through it though. Don't worry. Those thoughts are natural.

thanks, when its when it rains it pours.... but i suppose these feelings really do make us stronger.

[Skaboss]

my friend killed himself about a week ago, blew his brains out... this isnt sarcasm or anything this really happened, its always the person you least suspect, he always seemed happy

[Johnny Running Shoes]

Originally Posted by Skaboss

its always the person you least suspect, he always seemed happy

I worked with somebody like who you described. When I heard of his death by suicide...I was like wtf? It's really a shame leaving a good wife and kids behind.

[oigrrrl805]

Two deaths over here.

Over Christmas break in 2008. A guy in my grade that I've known since 6th grade died in a car accident. Nobody was drunk or high, I think it's the driver that got distracted and the car fell on the side. Everyone survived except for him.

The other one died during some surgery. I don't know much about him, just that he was handicapped.

Death sucks! There is no reason behind it. No explanation that will do the mind and soul justice. But its inevitable. People mourn because of our need to hold on. Hold on to memoies with a desire to create more. When something happens and someone is no longer with us, its a rapid change. And mankind hates change. Therefore our minds freak out and tears fall because we are sad.

Think of it this way. Say your religous and have "the faith". You would find peace knowing that the lost is going to be in a "better place" and free of harm, pain, drama, and sadness. Why wouldn't you be happy for them? Why would you cry? Why wouldn't you say, "FUCK i am jealous?" You can't because your forced into changing either minor or major details in your life. Admitting that you will not see that person ANYMORE.

Say your not. Say you believe that when you die its just as simple as the lights going out in a room. You could still find peace knowing that at least anything negative in that persons life that was causing the stress or issues will no longer apply. But still you mourn due to the same reasons stated above.

The other reason is that it points out our own mortality. More so the case when death comes to a young, healthy person. Its like shit if they can kick it...what about ME? In my opinion, there is nothing/no one pulling the strings. We have no secret date of expiration. Its as simple as what we do with our lives and the paths we take that control the ultimate outcome. Guy shots himself at age 16....didn't make a serious attempt to have his issues discussed and get help. Lady dies in a car accident and wasn't drunk...she made the choice to drive down that road she was on at that time. Wether we know it or not the little tiny details of our lives and the negative effects of what lies in the way are ALL a product of our own doing. At no point in life does something happen to us that we had no choice over. I know thats a hard thing for most people to admit because the lady who got rapped inside her home while she slept hates to think that if she had just made sure her windows were locked or had a dog that she would have heard that person creep in and could have called the cops or defended herself.

I am not trying to be an asshole. This is just the way that my brain rationalizes everything on what I consider to be a VERY realistic level. Take it as you want. For those grieving, my thoughts...

I think it's bullshit when someone says a suicide was so unexpected. I'm sure there's at least one person in the suicidal person's life that knows how they are feeling. Weeks before my first attempt I told my mom I was depressed. She told me I was going through a phase. It's things like this that shouldn't be ignored. Also, it's pretty hard to know what's going on inside someone's head.

[KidoftheBlackHole]

Originally Posted by opfiend

I think it's bullshit when someone says a suicide was so unexpected. I'm sure there's at least one person in the suicidal person's life that knows how they are feeling. Weeks before my first attempt I told my mom I was depressed. She told me I was going through a phase. It's things like this that shouldn't be ignored. Also, it's pretty hard to know what's going on inside someone's head.

That's some great parenting.

When people die, I would say I get over it... But I guess I can't get over it if it never bothers me to begin with.