Ok so I just spent the last 2 months acting as a full-time nanny, housecleaner and personal assistant to a sinlge mom with 5 kids. My payment was free rent for a small room for me, my boyfriend and son. When I first met her she was begging for help cause she had been sick and the kids trashed the house. When I got there it was obvious this was a regual thing sick or not. Food all over the floors, walls and everything else in the house. Knives under the beds, riped books and dolls that had been stabbed over and over. I though well I can clean it, she agreed to using rules and following them. Well she didn't follow them but the kids tried. She left messes thru the whold house and wanted me to pick up after her. She would call me on my cell to make her coffee. Sleeping all day, party'n everyother night, her ignoring the kids all day wasn't what I signed up for. She didn't have a car so of cource my boyfriend was to be her driver. I tucked her kids in and they would knock on my door at night cause mommy locked hers. They started calling me mom and I would have to correct them. So she started doing half mom duties. Anyways to make a long story short..... her house was being forclosed on and had code violations which I didn't know about till a month later. She wanted me to sign a lease for her but she had 3 evictions prior. So I started looking for a place of my own. She was a victom of domestic violence in her marrage, so was I but i didnt realise she was a over talker and drama queen. My marrage was worse then hers I just didn't keep having kids and I got out when football tackling turned into thowing things. She wanted me to leave my man and not tell him where i was moving with our kid.(can you say fucked up) Just because he wasn't as soft as she thought he should be and cause he sometimes did things her ex did (things most men do). Well I found a place and didn't tell her till the day I had to move. She was happy for me and acted like she was gonna cry. She said dont be a stranger, then she let me know that her daughter somehow had seen the iron she lent me in my closet. I remembered it being in the garage(which is where it was). I left and got a email. She accused me of stealing her 1gb camera card and battery to camera. I was pissed. Everything she has is broken or not taken care of why would I take it. I worte her back telling her nicely that the battery she shoved in my hand swearing it was mine was hers it had her mark on it and as for the card the only one I had was one my moms friend lent to me. I drove back to get the rest of my stuff and OMFG she was cleaning, like on her knees scrubing. She didn't look at me but her kids followed me to the room tryn to peek inside ( i always locked it, her girls had sticky fingers) I left her shit on the counter and didnt say a word. When I left I noticed a chair at my rooms window. What a loser. Well live and learn. I learned a few things about myself like I can run a house with 6 kids (hers plus one of mine) by myself smoothly. I was inspired more with my photography. And learned how to deal with my ex alittle better. Also I don't want to be friends with women who have kids that think that socializing is more important then being a mom. Grow up, get over it, everyone has a hard life, Its not about you anymore its about having healthy sane kids.